LOVE. It’s not something we ‘learn’ – it’s WHO we are. At our core, we are the very definition in its purest form, but somewhere along the way, we feel we need to earn this. Even from ourselves. Why is that? Because society says so?
To some extent, sure. I mean, it can be hard to love someone who is terrible towards you or the world. However, I also believe that LOVE is the only way we heal – individually and collectively. When we CHOOSE love, we choose FREEDOM. And don’t you want to be free?
Here’s the deal. We don’t always get to choose our circumstances, I get it. But we are the only ones in charge of our reaction to them. And it really can be THAT easy. If you say so…
Charming. Alluring. Complimentary. Adoring. Exciting. Affectionate. Passionate.
He said all the right things. He even DID all the right things… in the beginning, anyway.
He figured out exactly what I was looking for in a man and pretended to be all of those things. And then, he lost his mind.
At least that’s how it seemed.
It took me a year and a half to say YES to a new relationship.
After being with someone for 11 years, I knew that the next time I agreed to go “all in” with someone, it would have to be with someone that I could see myself with – long-term.
I took the first year after my break-up to myself to just do me – and when I began dating, everything I thought I knew about the dating world had (shockingly) changed!
I believe wholeheartedly that we attract people into our experience based on WHO WE ARE. That means that WHAT and WHO we attract may change from time to time as we go through our own process and journey…
It can be incredibly humbling, to say the least, when we realize that those we felt so connected to are not at all what they appeared to be initially…
But is that US or THEM?
And it can be a hard pill to swallow when we attract people that are completely out of alignment with our core beliefs and desires – yet for whatever reason, they were brought into our lives, regardless…
Ummmm… not even kidding.
You literally cannot make this shit up.
I am saving some real gems for my someday-it-will-be-finished-book (who knows when it will be out, it will be out at some point, mark my words)… but in the meantime…
Holy mother ‘effer!