It took me a year and a half to say YES to a new relationship.
After being with someone for 11 years, I knew that the next time I agreed to go “all in” with someone, it would have to be with someone that I could see myself with – long-term.
I took the first year after my break-up to myself to just do me – and when I began dating, everything I thought I knew about the dating world had (shockingly) changed!
I believe wholeheartedly that we attract people into our experience based on WHO WE ARE. That means that WHAT and WHO we attract may change from time to time as we go through our own process and journey…
It can be incredibly humbling, to say the least, when we realize that those we felt so connected to are not at all what they appeared to be initially…
But is that US or THEM?
And it can be a hard pill to swallow when we attract people that are completely out of alignment with our core beliefs and desires – yet for whatever reason, they were brought into our lives, regardless…
Ummmm… not even kidding.
You literally cannot make this shit up.
I am saving some real gems for my someday-it-will-be-finished-book (who knows when it will be out, it will be out at some point, mark my words)… but in the meantime…
Holy mother ‘effer!
Unbreakable self love. ❤
It can be really hard to accept that we teach people how to treat us. Because if you find yourself in a relationship, be it romantic or otherwise, that isn’t serving and supporting your highest self, that means you had a hand in the creation of such. And that stinks! The cool part though is that with that awareness comes a new set of eyes. And a chance to reset your filter as to what you’re willing to tolerate. What you feel you’re worth! Because the truth is, we are all mirrors. What we attract, we already are.
The last year has been an amazing transformative, mind-blowing experience.
There are no words that could possibly express the immense amount of gratitude, strength, growth, vulnerability, confidence, joy, uncertainty, fear, passion, hope, love… that has brought me to the very moment I am living right now.
I took huge risks; but trusted. I left “good”; but trusted. I got uncomfortable; but trusted. I loved myself more than ever before… and trusted.